If your experience of the male world is anything like mine has been, you might agree that many of us have polarized ourselves into two distinct categories: Tough Guys, and Nice Guys. Tough Guys tend to dominate others with force, fake confidence, size, and status....
Intimate partnerships, as an entity of their own, develop much like people do. Starting at the birth of the relationship, that magical moment in time when a completely electric connection is born to ourselves and to the world, a relationship consists of the energetic, emotional,...
Empowered Man Group 2.0 Beginning, August 13th, Ted and I are re-booting our men's work with a shift in format that feels more true to our vision of this work. We are inviting men who are interested in longer term, deeply transformative interpersonal work. Our original...
If you're like most of us in the US, you were influenced by culture to view intimate partnership more as an achievement or commodity, than as a pursuit in personal development. It's the simple American bias heavily valuing outcome over process, extrinsic over intrinsic, and...
In the interest of working with more and different types of Portlanders, I've started two donation-based groups. Portland Men's Group: meeting roughly once monthly, Ted Reavey and I co-facilitate a 90-minute open version of our Empowered Man Group. Unlike our closed, 8-session EMG's , however, this...
I've been warned at least once a year since I started this work. "Men are the toughest clients to get through the door!" they told me. "Good luck with that," others snickered. Yeah, they warned me. Even fellow practitioners of men's work, whom I respect...
It only took the first day of high school baseball tryouts for me to face my first major challenge in emerging manhood. I was a promising freshman pitcher, hoping to perform well on the junior varsity, playing the game I’d loved so dearly ever since...
An Insider's Guide to Online Therapy As someone who has experience with online therapy - both as a client, and as a practitioner - I wanted to give you the inside scoop. The reality is that in our vast world of internet communication, telecommuting, and the...
It is such an inherent part of our human nature to grow and transform, yet we resist it in so many ways. For many of us, hair color changes in infancy and in adulthood. We get wrinkles, lose and gain muscle and fat, get flat...
It's been an enriching summer so far over here at the VC. I've been enjoying connecting and reconnecting with clients-new and 0ld-each one a blessing. What's news is the Empowered Man Course, coming this fall to Portland, Oregon. This is an 8-session experiential created by myself...