I've been feeling inspired to organize my thoughts, intuitions, and plans into some writing, to get clear for myself and for readers and potential clients. First, I'm excited to announce that, as of February 4th, 2014, I am officially a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state...
Intimate partnerships, as an entity of their own, develop much like people do. Starting at the birth of the relationship, that magical moment in time when a completely electric connection is born to ourselves and to the world, a relationship consists of the energetic, emotional,...
Empowered Man Group 2.0 Beginning, August 13th, Ted and I are re-booting our men's work with a shift in format that feels more true to our vision of this work. We are inviting men who are interested in longer term, deeply transformative interpersonal work. Our original...
If you're like most of us in the US, you were influenced by culture to view intimate partnership more as an achievement or commodity, than as a pursuit in personal development. It's the simple American bias heavily valuing outcome over process, extrinsic over intrinsic, and...
I've been warned at least once a year since I started this work. "Men are the toughest clients to get through the door!" they told me. "Good luck with that," others snickered. Yeah, they warned me. Even fellow practitioners of men's work, whom I respect...
It only took the first day of high school baseball tryouts for me to face my first major challenge in emerging manhood. I was a promising freshman pitcher, hoping to perform well on the junior varsity, playing the game I’d loved so dearly ever since...
Being a therapist who gets charged up working with people on the quality of their relationships, I have recently been asking myself this question. As a therapist, this question helps guide me closer to the most purposeful form of relationship work I can muster. For...
I've been doing a lot of work in my men's groups recently on the awareness and forms of scarcity and abundance in relationship and these notions are creeping into my own process today. There are so many ways in which we can restrict our sense...
In every relationship-every interaction-there is an exchange of energy. In the best and worst cases, it is easy for most of us to sense the energetic impact of these exchanges. Do you ever feel drained, crashed, or otherwise exhausted around certain people or in certain...
Welcome to the new Vital Collective website! In a twist of universal synchronicity, my practice was shifting right when the site’s host was bought out and subsequently dropped…So, I’ve taken this opportunity to refresh myself energetically, and technologically. Can’t give enough thanks to my generous...